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#therapy Because of the hard time I've been having the past week, I finally broke down and made an appointment with a therapist. I've been putting that off for a few years, but life just got to me enough that I finally went ahead and decided to call. Actually, I Emailed. I don't do phones well. But, of course, then they want you to call anyway to make the appt. Can't win!!! Anyway, I am so hoping this is going to be something good.....not good, great!!!

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This is the most accurate post about anxiety i have ever read. Extremely well explained and articulated.

1. They don’t hide their anxiety, they hide their symptoms. To have concealed anxiety isn’t to deny having it – only to do everything in your power to ensure other people don’t see you struggle.

2. They have the most anxiety about having anxiety. Because they are not comfortable letting people see them in the throes of an irrational panic, the most anxiety-inducing idea is… whether or not they’ll have anxiety at any given moment in time.

3. They come across as a paradoxical mix of outgoing but introverted, very social but rarely out. It is not that they are anti-social, just that they can only take being around others incrementally (which is mostly normal). Yet, on the surface, this may come across as confusing.

4. They make situations worse by trying to suppress their feelings about them. They are extremely uncomfortable with other people seeing them in pain, and they don’t want to feel pitied or as though they are compromising anyone’s time. Yet, they make things worse for themselves by suppressing, as it actually funnels a ton of energy into making the problem larger and more present than it already was.

5. They are often hyper-aware and highly intuitive. Anxiousness is an evolutionary function that essentially keeps us alive by making us aware of our surroundings and other people’s motives. It’s only uncomfortable when we don’t know how to manage it effectively – the positive side is that it makes you hyper-conscious of what’s going on around you.

6. Their deepest triggers are usually social situations. It’s not that they feel anxious in an airplane, it’s that they feel anxious in an airplane and are stuck around 50 other people. It’s not that they will fail a test, but that they will fail a test and everyone in school will find out and think they are incompetent and their parents will be disappointed. It’s not that they will lose love, but that they will lose love and nobody will ever love them again.

7. It is not always just a “panicked feeling” they have to hide. It can also be a tendency to worry, catastrophizing, etc. The battle is often (always?) between competing thoughts in their minds.

8. They are deep thinkers, and great problem-solvers. One of the benefits of anxiety is that it leads you to considering every worst case scenario, and then subsequently, how to handle or respond to each.

9. They are almost always “self-regulating” their thoughts. They’re talking themselves in, out, around, up or down from something or another very often, and increasingly so in public places.

10. They don’t trust easily, but they will convince you that they do. They want to make the people around them feel loved and accepted as it eases their anxiety in a way.

11. They tend to desire control in other areas of their lives. They’re over-workers or are manically particular about how they dress or can’t really seem to let go of relationships if it wasn’t their idea to end them.

12. They have all-or-nothing personalities, which is what creates the anxiety. Despite being so extreme, they are highly indecisive. They try to “figure out” whether or not something is right before they actually try to do it.

13. They assume they are disliked. While this is often stressful, it often keeps them humble and grounded at the same time.

14. They are very driven (they care about the outcome of things). They are in equal proportions as in control of their lives as they feel out of control of their lives – this is because they so frequently try to compensate for fear of the unknown.

15. They are very smart, but doubt it. A high intelligence is linked to increased anxiety (and being doubtful of one’s mental capacity are linked to both).

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Do you have #depression in addition to your #anxiety or do you just get depressed BECAUSE of your anxiety?

Personally, I do not believe I have depression. I feel I'm more apt to get depressed because my anxiety holds me back from doing things.

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I've been feeling very insecure lately. Well, that's probably the wrong phrase to use since people with anxiety usually feel insecure. :P Others with anxiety issues always say "You're not alone." And I get that. I understand that I'm not alone, but why does it seem like sites that deal with anxiety always have younger people? I see articles written about social anxiety and it always involves someone in their 20s or 30s. What about people in their 50s. Are we supposed to be "over it" by then? In that aspect, I feel alone. Are most older people afraid to say anything? What is it? I know that 99.9% of this are my stupid-ass thoughts, but it makes one feel worse when it seems like no older people have the same issues. And, again, I know it's not true. I know this is just my social anxiety talking, but when it starts it's hard to stop. It's like any thoughts: As irrational as we know they are, they still seem so real and prevent us from living. I know I'm not going to go to the store and the ground is going to open up and swallow me, but yet it's a scenario that goes through my head.....one of thousands. I just wonder where the older people are. I just had to get that off my chest.

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#headspace Not doing too bad. I want to thank emmxbrown for mentioning "Headspace" for anxiety. I've been using it for almost a month and I have to say I believe that it works. I still have my anxious moments, but they aren't as often and most times I can just walk out of the house without even thinking about it. I've even been able to call a contractor when something needs fixing.
It does cost for "Headspace" and it is a bit pricey ($95.00/yr). They do have other subscriptions (monthly, 2 year, etc.). Check out headspace.com. If it is something you can do, I feel it is worth it. If not, the first two sessions are free, at least give those a try.
Again I want to thank you, emmxbrown

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